This week a dark skin black woman asked everyone what was going on, why were the men in her own races over looking her?
Well, they answered sensibly and respectfully. Well...the majority of them. To sum it up, some thought maybe it was her fault that she was sending out some vibe that made men go away from her. In this case, the poster responded back to everyone's answers even though she could have stayed anonymous. To 200 responses she finally said that she would work on her vibe and start to approach black men instead of waiting for them.
Now that's out of the way, one man said he had to confess that he only liked red-boned women. For those of you not familiar with this kind of talk, we black folks have what is called racism against our own race which some pointed out on the post that no other race exhibits.
A few of the answers attributed this racism to the "field" and the "house" negro syndrome during slavery time. Another said that there could be other issues but realized the fact that "don't discount the fact that her skin tone isn't one of them. Black-on-black prejudice is real." Aman.
Another said that it goes the other way; that some light skin sisters get rejected because men prefer dark skin women. Another girl said of a prejudice she gets that "Other races would always tell me how beautiful I was. Black men would usually add "for a dark skin girl" after saying it, as if dark skin is associated with ugly."
Then you had the ones said "You might not be attractive". Ha, ha, ha, that's messed up. Another said that she didn't think that men discriminated when it came to skin tone. Umm...I'll leave that alone.
Then that one comment that 'yet another post belittling black people. Umm, I'm sorry, but sensitivity to a problem when it comes up and people are discussing it never solves the issue...talking about it does.
What about the field of psychiatry, how in the world would it even be a business if no one talked about their problems? Most of the time, there is no solution given, but the fact that the person in need of counseling could get out their concerns was a healing process unto itself.
Whatever the case may be, I have to admit that growing up myself majorly living in the white society where I was the only black 99% of the time. I feared getting any sunlight or thought of my skin becoming dark that I used sunblock with the SPF of 70 and above. It worked to keep me lightskin. Now, I have released from this that I go in the opposite direction and actually get tans and focus on loving the skin that was given to me.
I do have to say that when I was light skinned and when I would become a dark, dark color, I definitely saw a difference. At one time I used to fundraise for my church and the days that I had become very, very dark I noticed a huge difference, a considerable difference in the people's first reaction. Went from trust to fear when I approached them compare to my 'lighter' days.
Not my imagination and take it however, but I'm old enough and experienced all races and communities to know that her question is valid. This post was on Sunday so I thought I would incorporate this into the story. I thought the wild friend twice divorced could have this problem maybe.
Why this topic? Because my Elizabeth character only is attracted to white men and diss the brothers.
I haven't been writing much because I have been mostly subconsciously reworking the story in my mind to see the bigger picture to see that spirit world my characters are living in that is real to them and make it real to me.
I do have to say that as I back off of the physical writing, writers will relate to this, my subconscious and my regular thinking is working hard. So, when you read the 9-page epilogue on the dashboard above, you can say bye, bye to the dry rhetoric as now I found Giselle's writing voice for it to spruce it up and adding to the story of her history of why she is not married.
This is the main reason I have not been able to write, I know Giselle, I am Giselle, but putting it on paper (slices throat). If I or any other creative person on earth could somehow transfer what is churning into our minds and place it into the world unhinged, you would see less crazy, drug-dependent, crazy, did I say crazy artists out there!
I am still not ready to post the seven pages where we get to see Mr. Washington, I will wait 'till the page gets more views, and they are coming so I appreciate you viewing these updates every week, it's inspiring me to keep going.
I like to give a shout out to the TwitterFam visiting here, you all keep me going and I promise the book will be worth it and you can say you were there as the book found its voice. Let's make history. Everyone else if you want to follow me on twitter I am at, twitter.com/iamdenisemorris.
Have a lovely weekend and week and see you here again next Saturday!
Love and Harmony People,
Denise Rochelle M.
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