The first post was stating my purpose for asking the question "Black men what is your biggest complaint against black women." and then I thought recently it wouldn't post, so I reposted a shorter question asking both black men and women what were their grievances about the other side.
Of course, you know why I asked because I deal with the issues and problems of black men and women in the dating pool in My Black Pride.
I thought I would post some of the comments here, but let's just say, Wow, I as poster was even attacked for asking such a question. It was a very heated debate. Men were so happy for the opportunity for an open ear and loved that a female was asking the question. Then there were other people of other races chiming in that they felt left out, then you had the ones that were over accommodating for the negative question by saying how wonderful black men and women were, they had no complaints and they didn't want to add to the negativity.
Even one poster after several men and women on either posts listed their grievances and even shot off onto one another because of their answers point blank said, "Now this is why all the other races don't like ya'll. You always putting each other down."
Well, the grievances were long and valid. One was directed at me, posters are anonymous by default, to why don't I offer a solution.
And there we go. I feel finally there is the point! Exactly. My time is not wasted on this story venture after all. Another person had said that the grievances were no different between the races, but unfortunately this is not true. Unlike all of the other races, black Americans have a deep scar when it comes to the interaction of the black male and the black female that is to this moment being swept under the rug. There are of course problems similar in other communities, but when certain problems arise that are ingrained into that community cloaked over those people, there must be a beginning source to that problem.
Other communities, there is not a common tie to men/women issues as much as the black issues. We have one common tie that began it all. DON'T get mad at me for making excuses, because these aren't excuses. Take a deep look, the black community never overcame slavery, were taught by their slave ancestors and some are still raising and living MENTALLY like their slave grand, grand etc. how can you be any different if the chain is not broken?
I have been released from that chain and through Black Pride I feel it's a great forum to open up that wound, pierce through it and cleanse it. Like a mission of sorts.
Who can deny that black men were encouraged just over a century ago to be strong only, bare children even outside of wedlock, and leave those children. Many did not raise their families and were sold to other ranches like cattle to bare more children with multiple women. On the other hand, the black woman was to be strong on her own and take care of every single child in the household including her own and cater to a man that was her 'boss' called the master.
I had written a post back on that forum with a little anger that people were mad I asked the question stirring up trouble and posed this answer, but I think that question has been dropped. Too much heat.
Bad for the forum, good for My Black Pride and Prejudice book. I actually have to go back to the original post and see the answers and incorporate them.
This week's writing was mainly filling in holes in my story and fleshing out the story of Giselle having to change positions from the original Pride and Prejudice where Mr. Darcy came to her twice not including the letter scene explaining his defenses, and changed it to Giselle having to approach Mr. Washington with all of her pride gone and open the door for him to come to her once more. So there are a few additional scenes I added for this occasion.
Well, the topic of black men and women disrespect for one another was so evident on the posts I have to search for it and see the bigger picture. It was actually two people on either post that stated I needed to give a solution. Isn't that like a sign from God?
What solution do I offer in Black Pride? The same as the original book gave, get rid of pride and fear and respect one another. Except both characters in my version have to go through life changing moments to change their bad habits and let go to come together the second time around as one couple.
That's all for this week. I don't like to 'stir up no trouble', ha, ha but sometimes, to make change, someone has to go into the kitchen and mix it up a little bit. And I am the perfect person for stirring up the pot! See you next Saturday!
Love and Unity,
Denise Rochelle M.
