Quick answers were, "For your protection", "We don't like drama/fighting", "It's a man thing/we were made that way", "Women are all about feelings and men are all about solutions." These were the quick and light answers.
Hi, everyone, hope you are keeping warm this week as the temperatures remind us that it is indeed winter.
Yet again, I look toward the Facebook forum of anonymized questions answered by VERY vocal posters naming off their opinions. This week, the question was to men only. But like many posts, some women would answer for the men. .. (scratches head) yes, I understand in this day and age some women have to take up the role of man and woman in the family when they are left as a single mother, but I don't see single father's on any of those posts answering for the women-only questions.
And men made that exact point several times. Many, many posted that the women needed to stop answering for the men and sometimes, LOL right after that post a woman will say, "Because of their ego." man. How funny we women are, ha, ha sorry, men. Some say that they try to explain to a woman how they are feeling,but instead get a woman 'in the face' talking bad things to them instead of just listening and understanding.
A few men out of 100 posts said that, "Women will shut down in relations with women because women will not listen to us anyway. As you can see the question was posed to men and the women answered for them. If women took time out to just listen to their man/husband/male friend, I'm pretty sure a lot more men would open up if they felt they were being heard!"
Well, those of you who like the Pride and Prejudice series have grown to like a man that has no ability to say a single word of what he is feeling inside- in the right way. When he did finally decide to say a word, he always was making the situation a mess or hurting someone's feelings - mostly Elizabeth's.
Of course this inept beast describes Mr. Darcy. When we first meet Mr. Darcy at the dance, he is so cold and arrogant and owns the whole world. He barely even returns conversation to his friend who tries to get him engaged in the party and away from the corner.
Then of course we see later that Mr. Darcy for most of the book was hiding his true feelings for Elizabeth so when his feelings of love came out with force he fumbles it all up. Mr. Darcy is a prime example of a man who could not get in touch with his feminine side to talk to the girl he wanted to marry until the very end.
What would our Mr. Darcy be like if he was communicative? He wouldn't be as loveable when we finally witness that because of his deep love for Elizabeth he changed to overcome this fallacy within himself.
Think about it. If from the beginning Mr. Darcy could just give in to his wants, there would be no character growth, no tension - no 200 year-later blog about the story. We need these elements in a story, our brain needs this dissonance or conflict on paper - the ups and downs.
Without a character who completely shut down his emotions, Pride and Prejudice would not have triumphed as much in all of our hearts.
Just as one man poster suggested, don't be so critical to your man, be quiet and understanding and just listen and we might not have to ask this question in the future. And stop answering and speaking for the men is another step, ha, ha.
Unfortunately, I have had writer's block for the last two weeks even though it is just to rewrite the whole second draft for self-publish to get interested reader's feedback. If they can ignore the misspelled words and grammatical mistakes.
As my romantic life changes and I enter Pride and Prejudice territory for the first time in my life, my viewpoint of my story grows. Hey, I think that will be a great post in the future. "How Online Relationships Could Change Pride and Prejudice". Just a thought.
Have a fun one enjoy the rest of your four-day weekend!
Denise Rochelle M.
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